for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God."
James 1:19-20 (NKJV)
Have you ever made the mistake of putting your shoes or boots on the wrong feet? There were a couple of times in the past that I did that because I was not really paying attention to what I was doing. But before long I noticed that things just did not seem right. A quick examination of the situation showed me the obvious problem, I had gotten things backwards, my boots were on the wrong feet! While I did have something on my feet, things were not going to work very well for me until I made a change and got things straightened out.
Getting things backwards or in the wrong order can be a simple mistake, but if it is not corrected it can create major problems. James 1:19 talks about the correct way to do things, being swift to hear and slow to speak. The problem is that too many people, including Christians, have gotten that backwards. So many people are quick to speak and slow to listen to others and really hear what is going on. While people are doing the right things of speaking and hearing, they have gotten things backwards and that is not good.
Often, we are so busy saying what we want to say that no one else can even get a word in. Many times, we are just ready to say what we want to say and we are not really listening to other people. But if we don't listen to other people, we are not going to be able to help them, and we give the impression that we are more interested in what we have to say than we are in the other person and what they think or have to say. We all need to get things in the right order and be swift to hear and slow to speak, that is the biblical pattern and a way to walk in love with and help other people.